What to Consider When Dating

Dating is the practice of going out with someone to get to know them by gathering data and sharing experiences with the possibility of developing a romantic relationship. Dating does not have a rule book, but it can be enjoyable when the two parties agree with their intentions. For some people, it is a matter of the two parties agreeing on what they want out of the experiences. However, dating with intent is the key to having a successful outcome. Whether the practice results in marriage or not, here are some things to consider when dating.

Some people are only dating to have a good time.

People who only date to have a good time do not want anything serious. They do not want the responsibilities of a commitment and only desire to hang out and possibly get together sexually from time to time. Some people who practice this form of dating are up-front about it, and some people are not, so it is important that you get clarity.

Going with the flow

People who are going with the flow are in the moment. They are not pressing for marriage. For them: if something serious comes out of it, it is okay, and if not, that's okay, too. Going with the flow can mirror the other forms of dating practices because once the parties are in a relationship with one another past the initial meet and greet stage, it will feel like the relationship is going through the ebbs and flows that come with it. The difference is that there are no expectations of marriage when couples are only going with the flow. For many, they are enjoying each other while being monogamous.

Dating with the intent of marriage

People dating with the intent of marriage expect the relationship to result in marriage. Sometimes, the intention to get married is stated at the beginning stages while the couples get to know one another. It is not uncommon for couples who date intending to get married to have a quick engagement and or trip down the aisle. Sometimes, these couples do not believe it is necessary to wait long if they know what they want. However, some couples do not mind giving it time before actually getting married. Usually, the ones who wait will schedule the wedding date for a year or two later. In any way, this dating practice is done with intent.

Not looking to date, but will

People not looking to date are not worried about being in a relationship. If the opportunity to date presents itself and they are open to it, they will engage. It is possible that the couple in this category desire to date with intention, but it is also possible that the persons in this dating category want to go with the flow or only want to have a good time. Don't expect a title on the relationship too soon. People who are not looking to date are likely to take things slowly. They are comfortable being single, and anything that threatens their peace will cause them to pause or ask for space.

Whatever category you find yourself in, you must be comfortable with operating in that dating practice. Often, women tell themselves that they can handle only dating to have a good time until they get caught up in the situation and start catching feelings for the guy. When the woman changes her mind and gets emotional over the guy not giving her the attention or relationship status she was hoping for leaves him confused and frustrated. Determining which dating practice you want to use before meeting someone helps you choose the right person for you in that dating season.